Solving the Moment

In a committed long-term relationship, there will doubtless be times when partners disagree. Couples' therapy helps foster a positive overall atmosphere that enables couples to use these moments as “occasions of intimacy” instead of letting disagreements sour the whole relationship. This is called “solving the moment” and gets the couple to talk over the situation rather than argue. They figure out how they relate in the moment, and if they can't work out the disagreement, they can at least commiserate on the difficulty of the problem. Taking this approach lets disagreements bring a couple closer together and turns them into a pair of troubleshooters.Read the entire article here: Solving the Moment Rather Than Solving the Problem